My wife and I married at a private residence tucked away in the windy roads of the Temecula wine country, so we did our own wedding planning. We realized after visiting several wineries, $80-$120 per plate cost was too rich for our taste. Continue reading 4 Steps to Take Charge of Your Wedding Planning
I’m on an amazing diet because I don’t want to lose weight, I want to gain it! Is this a trick question?
What if I said your enthusiasm, will power and diet program will shed pounds…but only for a few months. Continue reading Do You Want to Diet or Lose Weight?
Are you the recipient of a settlement from a lawsuit? If so, the judge may have issued you a structured settlement, in which your settlement is paid out over time. This is great for some-those who are financially challenged, but for those who have financial wherewithal, this is a nuisance. Continue reading Did You Know You Can Sell Your Structured Settlement
Several years ago, I sold shoes on Ebay. The idea sprung from an article I read about the inhumane treatment of factory workers in China by Nike. I’m unable to locate that article but I did find the list of factories Nike uses to produce and manufacturer their product. It was the start of my making money online endeavors. Continue reading 4 Key Steps to Making Money Online Selling on Ebay
Hate school? Wish you could take an exam and viola, be a college graduate? If possible, many choosing this option would fail to understand why it is important to go to college. Continue reading Why is it Important to go to College?
Ask any student if fear of college fills their minds. Some of them will admit their fear of college, others won’t. Continue reading 5 Laws to Conquer Your Fear of College
Dear High School Student,
I want to shed a bit of light on the subject of going to college in a state other than the one you’re currently living in. Undoubtedly, you’re brimming with joy and happiness as you set your sails beyond the halls of high school and into the seas of adulthood.
Beware though, a cruel, unrelenting storm every adult must face called reality, is a small price to pay to enjoy such freedom.
Bad teachers are everywhere – in high school, college and at work. If you haven’t experienced a bad teacher, give it time, you will. Continue reading How to Deal With Awful School Teachers
I had a great idea to search for “positive thinking” on the Internet and stumbled upon an individual’s take about why positive thinking is bad. “Really? I’ve never thought filling my mind with positive thoughts to push me through another day was bad?” According to this person therein lies the problem “thinking.”
“What? Why would thinking be bad?” It isn’t bad per say, its what’s done in the mind as a conditioned response that is bad. Most of us are conditioned to respond to situations with good or bad but what if you didn’t have good or bad to choose from? What if the situation that occurred was a situation and nothing more?
The result of not having good or bad as a solution to a situation is that the event is part of the process. We aim to condition our minds to create contingency plans in the event time is spent on situations that temporarily take away from the pursuit of our goal. Prime example, building a house. The first thing completed is plumbing followed by concrete. During one of those steps, unfortunately, (good/bad thought waving its hand) Mother Earth decides to rain out the party for a few days. It’s nature. There’s nothing man can do to thwart the onset of rain but sit it out and resume when the rain subsides.
Most see the rain as bad but is it really? Do you think the builder factored into their proposal some contingency plan for unseen events? Your darn right they did! In similar respects, situations that find us are just situations, neither good nor bad but something that must be dealt with to reach our goal. Ok are you done scratching your head yet? I now this is pretty deep stuff but take a look at the core concept and try to apply it the next time you’re deal ing with a “mother nature” event.
Trust me I thought this was absurd when I initially read it. But after giving it careful thought there is some validity to it. Viewing adversity through the lens of occurrence and not good or bad can surely cut stress and anxiety in our lives. Don’t you think?
“Ok, adversity isn’t good or bad, it’s just part of the process. Whew. Now I don’t have to rack my brain with endless thoughts of good and bad.”